Dealing with Crying

Ways You should look Beyond Crying

Almost always, we're often told that we should not let our emotions be expressed in the workplace. Sabi nila, when we cry at work, we tend to creat confusion and tend to upset those around us or people working with us.

People will make up reasons for you like: Did somebody hurt her? was she fired? what have she done this time??? It's another case of "Parting Time" blues, is she feeling well???

So let me share some insights..ideas on how to deal with crying at work:

1. Let the Storm Pass: Finish out the crying in a way that's appropriate to the particular nature of your workplace. Wait until later in the day, after you've regained your center naturally, to analyze your crying.

2. Rerun the Situation: Look at your crying as if you were analyzing a crime scene. Take time to look into what really happened before you add emotion to the picture. Who was there? Who said what? What happened?

3. Identify the Related Emotions: Did you feel sadness? Anger? Frustration? Confusion?

4. Name the Trigger: What set off the crying? See if you can connect the crying with something in the moment. For example, did someone sideline your work? Take credit for something unduly? Remind you of a past failure? Make you think about what you'd rather be doing? If there was no trigger, ask yourself if the crying has been ongoing for weeks. If so, consider seeing a counselor to determine if you are suffering from depression.

5. Ask Yourself What Gave the Situation Teeth: Although some people cry more easily than others, it is always a sign of powerful emotions. What was so difficult about the situation that it caused tears?

6. Ask Yourself If Your Reaction Matched the Situation: If you receive a pink slip and cry, that's understandable. If you present an idea that's met with reasonable and unabusive disagreement, crying is not warranted and may signal hidden origins.

7. Dig Further: If you still feel like you don't have a handle on what caused the crying or what you were feeling, journaling or talking through the situation with a good friend may help you discover it.

8. Set a Course of Action: Once you understand the situation, start on a plan to make your life better. Taking steps toward improving the situation is empowering and will ultimately lead you to a more peaceful, powerful place. Even if the problem turns out to be major, you could develop a five-year plan, incorporating counseling, training, job changes and life changes.

So, whenever you feel like crying...family problem, work related, love related or the last soap opera made you so cry-ola....try these useful tips.